Patriarchy and Collectivism


I was on a philosophy call with some of my Praxis friends and our topic of discussion was patriarchy: what it is, does it exist, and is that okay. Naturally, it went far deeper than the original topic.

It got me thinking and I decided to write some things. I’ll be making few articulate stances but more delving deep into different perspectives. I usually write shortly about my experiences so a longer-form plunge into a philosophy should be interesting territory.

I think the source of patriarchy probably comes down to the fact that people with penises are typically physically stronger than people with vaginas.

That places them in a position of dominance, but it also gives them an incentive to become more educated. A caveman discovers fire and teaches his son to make fire, leaving his daughter without this knowledge, because she’ll be building the human race.

Multiply the dominance and incentive to retain information essential to humanity’s survival by thousands of years and you get men who hold political power making the decisions.

So males holding power was, in a sense, up to chance. Men just were stronger.

What are the ethical implications of this? Since males were simply given this power, did they hold a higher responsibility for what happened as a whole? Did they hold an ethical responsibility as cavemen to become aware of a need to include women in the process of education, in the name of far off equality? If there was some burden placed upon the male percentage of humanity, would that burden exist today? If not, why?

I haven’t decided on an answer to these questions but they’re worth thinking about. More generally, the question might be: if one person or group is given huge influence over the course of the entire human race, does that influence, bestowed against their will, bestow with it an inherit responsibility to use that power in a specific way?

(To be clear, I’m not certain this inherit power is a thing. I’m convinced for now but I’m open to arguments.)

After that, someone mentioned the question, “So, if a patriarchal society exists peacefully, meaning men do control it but it’s entirely voluntary and women are not out of power through male use of unethical force, what are we losing?”

It made me ask myself what I value in a society. I concluded that I value a society where every individual has the absolute maximum amount of free will they can have while not messing with others’ free will , which means they are free from as many forms of psychological dogma as possible, including all social norms. On this, I take issue with situations where any identifiable collective maintains societal power.

I dove into this rabbit hole and I might be a radical individualist, opposed to even the slightest form of collectivism. This would make me against even attaching gender to identity. I have not decided or concluded where I stand, but as of now I’m leaning in this direction.

This form of writing was definitely interesting. I don’t think it provides as much value to the reader as other forms, even in just entertainment value, but I do want my website and blog to contain information that defines who I am, including my philosophical stances. Time will tell if this way of writing continues.

We Will Die


I was on a shuttle to the airport and there were two old ladies talking about being old ladies.

“Oh, can you believe how fast it went by?”

“Goodness, no. Like the snap of a finger!”

It made me think about death and the fact that I’ll die. We all will. I don’t think that’s a tragedy but it’s worth having the conscious knowledge in our minds.

It makes me think of a conversation I had with an old friend. He started at a university last month. After our conversation, I knew he didn’t know precisely why he was there.

I texted him about it and he said, “I’m not paying to be here so it’s not really a huge investment.”

I responded, “Time is more of an investment than any amount of money.”

“I’ve got plenty.”

I’ve got plenty. Those three words are responsible for an incalculable amount of suffering, regret, and longing.

The idea behind them is inaccurate. At this age, we have the freedom to do anything we want almost without consequence. It’s much easier to try random and potentially catastrophic ideas when you’re 18 and single, rather than 30 with a house and children.

It’s easy to cover this with worry for the future, but in reality, it’s true. You can try anything when you’re young and if it doesn’t work, you can try something else. You’ll be happier, more interesting, and without regret, but this opportunity only lasts so long.

To illustrate the idea that we really don’t have plenty of time, think about fractions.

If you’re about 20 and your heart stops at 80, you’ve used a quarter of your life.

One year is about 2 percent of the rest of your life.

Four years is 7 percent.

If you think of it like this, are you consciously willing to spend two percent of your life at a job you hate, with a person you don’t love, or doing something that doesn’t make you come alive?

Are you willing to spend 7 percent of your life preparing to enter the real world, rather than 7 percent experimenting and learning and trying all kinds of exciting things in the real world?

Are you willing to burn any percentage of your life in a way that doesn’t get you closer to your goals, however abstract they may be?

I know I’m not.



If you go to a silent place and submerge your head in water, you’ll hear your heartbeat.

If you take your right hand and put it on your heart, you’ll detect the millisecond delay between the pound on your chest and the vibration near your ears.

If you take your left hand and feel the veins on top of your right hand, you’ll feel the blood pumping, and you’ll connect the heartbeat, the sound in your ears, and the pulse on your hand.

If at the moment you grasp what is happening in your body, you ask yourself, “What is this capable of?”

You’ll know your potential.

How I Became a Lover of Liberty


I was apolitical through middle and high school. I leaned right, but only because I had fun cackling at videos of social justice warriors with my cackling friends.

If someone asked what I believed, I said people should just smoke weed and own guns, but I didn’t think about it much.

I thought news organizations were corrupt, I hated authority, and I said the party system is stupid. I said “capitalism rules” but I didn’t know what I was talking about.

After I left high school, I found one of my first copywriting clients, Gregory. He was a ten-year digital nomad and analytical genius.

He was my sherpa to the online world of making money. He counseled me on challenges and growing up and travel and all sorts of things.

He sent me a long message. When he was eighteen, he snuck into a philosophy class and met an old economics nerd-guru. They became close friends and the man gave him an old recording, “The V-50 Lectures.”

It was forty years old and contained forty-eight hours of content. The lectures’ objective is to convince the listener that involuntary interactions are immoral because of the nature of property rights.

I didn’t come close to finishing these lectures but I listened to the first several. Once I understood how fundamentally important voluntary action is, it was a no brainer. I didn’t have a violent conversion or a grand internal conflict that led me to opposing the state. It was simply, “Oh, the state is run through force and involuntary exploitation of citizens, and that’s bad. The state is bad.”

I now held these beliefs and nothing changed. I didn’t know I was a “libertarian” and I didn’t know there were communities of these beliefs. I thought I was one of a scattered few dozen or hundred that believed this. Nothing in my life changed and I kept building my online career.

Four months later, I discovered Praxis. I got accepted into the program and it became immediately clear that I was not alone in my radical ideas. As I entered the community of delightfully rational and intelligent people who thought often, I saw that many of them talked about the evils of authoritarianism.

I got on late-night video chats with dozens of them and heard terms I’d never heard of. They spoke of things I didn’t know about. I asked questions and gathered definitions and I finally realized we believed the same stuff.

My “Forceful government sucks” was the same as their “The initiation of force violates the Non Aggression Principal, which is why I’m a Voluntarist/Minarchist/Anarcho-Capitalist/Libertarian.”

Before Praxis, I reached my conclusions about government via a morality route. I never thought about the free market or its effectiveness. But once I engaged in these hugely valuable conversations with educated people, I started to see how much good the free market is responsible for. It became abundantly obvious that is the best economic system not only on a moral basis, but on a practical level too.

I got added to of Libertarian Facebook groups of every type. I engaged in debates. I tried to convince my family that involuntary taxation is theft. I became more educated as I was inspired by Praxis participants and their education. I wanted to that knowledge for myself.

Today, if I have to define my precise beliefs, I believe in only voluntary association and interaction. That’s it. It might make me an anarcho-capitalist, it might make a minarchist (if taxation could be 100% voluntary). Frankly, I refuse to pretend I am educated enough at this point to take a specific stance with razor blade exactness. One day, I will be.

A Gigantic List of Life Lessons


This is a list of life lessons I’ve gathered.

  • Gratitude evaporates resistance. Any time I feel stuck, I engage in the expression of gratitude for several minutes. My mind, my smart phone, my brother, oxygen, the ability to experience emotion, taste buds, thumbs, flip flops, books, the internet, and anything else. By the end, I’m mega-productive.
  • Staying up until sunrise with good company is always worth it.
  • Merino wool socks are the best socks money can buy.
  • Social media is a lucrative tool but can become a costly addiction if not tended to.
  • Drinking a gallon of water per day is a good thing.
  • It’s never a bad time to make a paper airplane.
  • Sunlight is essential and generates vitality and optimism.
  • There’s nothing like kissing someone you love.
  • Dancing shamelessly = joy.
  • Walks are valuable. There’s a specific way to go on a walk that’s most valuable for me. When the purpose of the walk is just the walk, without any separate motive, the benefits emerge. The reason for the walk isn’t to focus, to think about things, to work through an issue, or anything that isn’t just the walk.
  • Having a car makes life much easier.
  • Doing nothing for a short while is a great way to figure out what you ought to be doing.
  • Reading is worth it.
  • Pomegranates are not worth it.
  • It’s always a good time to clean and shine your electronics’ screens.
  • Honesty and integrity are above all else when is comes to attaining self-respect.
  • Crying is healthy.
  • Diet is the number one factor in mental health. When I eat a ton of sugar and flour and garbage, I feel depressed and unproductive. When I avoid those things and fill my body with awesome vitamins and nutrients, I feel like a god.
  • Smiling makes people smile back.
  • Eating is a beautiful experience when it’s done without distractions.
  • True friendship only emerges organically.
  • A fast computer is one of the few material luxuries that legitimately improves mental state.
  • When you have to choose what you want or what others want for you, it is better to choose what you want, every single time.
  • Restaurant work isn’t as bad as it’s made out to be.
  • If you seem calm, people think you’re not doing something important.
  • You don’t have to pick what you’ll do with your life when you finish high school.
  • The best work appears when the person loves the work itself. Money and prestige will never produce the art of someone who loves what they do.
  • There’s nothing scary about the unknown, if you really think about it.

Caviar and Grape Nuts


I’m just gonna write with the objective of having some sort of point come out of the writing. I’ve noticed that, in the time of “writer’s block,” it’s good to just write.

I’ve also noticed that every person who has ever attempted daily blogging writes a post about how they’re overcoming writer’s block by just writing. My apologies.

This is an interesting thing, though.

I’ve often been about to do something, notice everyone else does the same thing, and, for the sake of Holy Individualism, choose not to do the thing. This is pretty stupid and it’s not individualism at all.

Individualism, as defined by me, is living precisely how I would live if other people had no impact on my actions whatsoever. It is not specifically trying to do things that separate from a crowd. A true individual is someone who does whatever they want.

Someone who does exactly what the crowd does because they feel like it is more of an individual than someone who does the opposite of the crowd because they are specifically trying to be an individual. The second person’s actions are still dictated by the crowd—just not as directly.

One of my favorite quotes: “There is more simplicity in the man who eats caviar on impulse than the man who eats Grape Nuts on principle.” Gilbert Chesterton said that.

I like Individualism and want to be an individual, but in my pursuit it has been easy to intentionally do things to avoid what the crowd does.

“Hipster” is a pop definition.

If I didn’t publish this blog post, which began as a common post of “here’s how I’m going to write when I’m stuck and can’t write,” I’d be doing it only because I didn’t want to be like others who make posts like that. Stupid.